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 Lesbian Truth vs. A Misunderstood Society View

Society View:        Lesbians look and act like men.  Often referred to as "dykes".

Lesbian Fact:        Although there are some lesbians who do fit into the stereotypical description, there are plenty of lesbians who are very feminine looking and acting.  I didn't know a lesbian had to play the part of a dyke to be initiated into lesbianhood.
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Society View:        Lesbians were abused as young girls or had a bad experience with men.

Lesbian Fact:        The sad fact is that there are a lot of women (straight and lesbian) were abused as children.  However, there are plenty of lesbians who were NOT abused as children and who did NOT have bad experiences with men.  The fact is this:  You are either born gay or you're not.  You will realize it when you're young, older, old, or never.

Society View:        Being gay or lesbian is a choice.

Lesbian Fact:        Thinking that being homosexual is a choice is like saying being attracted to blondes, red heads, brunettes, fat, skinny, black, white, Asian, or Hispanics is a choice.  We do NOT choose who we fall in love with nor do we choose who we are attracted to.  Gays and lesbians were NEVER attracted to the opposite sex since the day they were born.  Although some may have dated the opposite sex in younger years or married in adult years, that doesn't mean that their attraction to the same sex was not there.  It simply means that their "denial" superceded their inner awakening and identity.  Many gays and lesbians claim after coming out that they knew in the back of their mind that they were attracted to the same sex, but they "settled" on dating or marrying the opposite sex for not wanting to go against what society wants from them.  It takes a courageous person to "come out of the closet" and admit to who they are.  There are also many that will tell you that by their "choice" to marry the opposite sex didn't make them happy NOR make their partner happy in the long run.  Was it fair to marry a man who you know you would never truly be fully in love with or be attracted to?  Is this fair to the man not ever being fully loved (mind, body, and soul) by his wife?  Is it fair to the woman to give up her desires for someone that is not for her and a lifestyle that will never make her truly happy?  The ONLY choice that was made in these situations were not to being themselves and being true to themselves or to the person they married.  Not living for you is a choice.  Pretending is a choice.

One more statement regarding "choice":  Who in their right mind would "choose" to be gay or lesbian knowing the battlefield (societies ignorance and hatred) that lays out there for homosexuals?

Society View:          Being a gay or lesbian is immoral.

Lesbian Fact:        Are any of us humans ordained to say who is moral and who is not?  Many straight people live immoral lives.  They "pretend" to lead moral lives, but in their secret lives they may be cheating on their spouse, have an alcohol, gambling or drug problem.  Usually those are the people who like to judge others to keep the "focus" of them.  Isn't the divorce rate above 50%?  In recent studies, 70% of all men cheat on their wives, while the cheating wives are climbing to 40%.  The fact is that many gay and lesbians live "moral" lives.  Many lead monogamous and healthy (mind, body and spirit) livings.  If loving others is immoral, then I am very confused on what "moral" is then.

Society View:        Being a homosexual is all about sex.

Lesbian Fact:        Indeed there is a sexual factor in "homosexuality"; same as "heterosexuality".  Sex and love are two entities.  Anyone can have sex; only people in love make love.  Most homosexuals are like anyone else --- they are looking for "love".  In other words, homosexuals prefer the same sex partners for love and with love comes love making